“The best discoveries in life come not from finding the right answers, but from asking the right questions.”
"Ask a better question, get a better answer."
- Shaan Puri
Inspired by Shaan Puri's idea of being a "question collector", I started doing the same
and now keep a running list of questions that I find valuable.
Work-related:
Instead of: When will this be done?
When would you be surprised if we didn't have this done by?
When would you be surprised by it being done?
Okay, great. So best case scenario, what are you thinking?
When someone explains a long, complex plan:
All that sounds really hard. What would be easy?
When managing someone:
What's on your mind?
What's a conversation you've been avoiding?
Small Talk/Getting to know someone:
What's on your unofficial resume?
Who are your role models and why?
What's lighting you up outside of work?
What's an ideal Sunday morning for you?
What are you most excited about currently?
If you had another career, what would it be?
What's something you're happy to overspend on?
What's your favorite book you've read recently?
What is a risk you took that changed your life?
You look happy! What were you doing right before this?
What's the nicest thing someone's ever said about you?
What's the meanest thing someone's ever said about you?
Tell me about your friends and why are they your friends.
What's an encounter with a stranger you will never forget?
What is something about you that people tend to get wrong?
When was the last time you did something for the first time?
What is something you'd whisper in the ear of your younger self?
If you could have any job in the world, what would it be and why?
If you could move anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
You got a little pep in your step today, what'd you have for breakfast?
If you didn't know the day you were born, how old would you think you are?
What's something about you that you think is a good quality, but others would disagree?
What's something random or improbable that happened in the past that had a major impact on your life?
Questions I ask myself often:
Who needs my help?
What are my anti-goals?
Am I playing a stupid game?
Is this the beginning, or is this the end?
If I could only work two hours today but still wanted today to be a huge success, what would I do in those two hours?
Questions for doing a "self-review":
What are the recent wins?
What are the things I am bad at that I AM accepting and not working on?
What are the things I am bad at that I am NOT accepting and working on?
What are the things in my life I am no longer willing to tolerate and plan to start working on?
When I interview someone:
What is your superpower?
What's the hardest thing you've ever done?
What did you fail at in the last 12 months?
What's the best advice you've ever received?
What question am I not asking you that you want me to?
What could you give a 5-minute presentation on with no prep?
What one habit has made a crucial difference in your success?
What do you think we are doing wrong as a company right now?
What's something that everyone takes for granted that you think is hogwash?
What's something you have changed your mind on over the last decade/recently?
Tell me about a time when you needed to disagree with your manager or fight for a position against higher leadership.
When someone offers an opinion or belief or does what they do, the best questions to ask people (in a non-judgemental way):
Why do you do that?
Why do you think that?
Topics like risk, greed, and fear are not the kind of things that we can learn and master as a society such as agriculture.
Some lessons have to be experienced firsthand before they can be understood. (Michael Batnik)
Instead of asking - why do you believe that?
Ask - “What have you experienced that I haven't that makes you believe what you do?”
Ask - “Would I think the same thing if I experienced what you have?